Read this article, and then say it with me: This guy is an asshole.
I don’t give two shits if other people wait to have sex before marriage, but I give approximately five million shits about some asshole saying my marriage is less meaningful than his.
About halfway through the article, after he justifies his judging of others by saying he was judged first (how mature!) and gloats about how his wife is ACTUALLY more beautiful than yours (lucky him!), he describes a conversation with another newlywed — one of those “floozies” who decided to have sex before marriage, whose “poor schmuck” of a husband was hungover the morning after their wedding. He then says:
Then I realized something. Our wedding was truly a once in a lifetime event. It was a God’s-honest celebration of two completely separate lives now becoming one. Physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually, everything that made us who we were individually was becoming what bonded us together. Our family traveled from far and wide to celebrate the decision of two young people to truly commit themselves to each other, and selflessly give themselves to one another in a way that they never had before that very night.
Interesting. That’s how I felt about my own, secular, living-in-sin wedding! My wedding WAS a once-in-a-lifetime event. It WAS a celebration. Our family DID travel far and wife to celebrate our decision — and every single one knew we “shacked up” beforehand.
Let’s be honest here: marriage really isn’t about sex. I think most people would agree with that, regardless of whether they are waiting/waited or not. The virginity (or lack thereof) of the bride and groom in no way effects the importance or sentiment of a wedding. It’s a personal choice, sometimes guided by religion, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it, regardless of what the author of the article says. Frankly, his focus on sex and insistence that his way is the only “right” way just cheapens his marriage and his wedding — not the other way around.
Furthermore, last time I checked, I wasn’t a floozie.
What an incredible asshole.